Bitterness often involves loss of perspective. The event that is causing us to grow bitter is often a real or perceived injustice. Because of the sense of injustice we can deny that there really is bitterness in our hearts. Acknowledging the bitterness and seeking to let go of the injustice is part of how we deal with bitterness. If injustice is causing your bitterness, reflect on how you can deal with that. Bitterness often causes us to become totally involved in our own problems. This inward focus is fine for a time, because we do need to examine what is going on. There becomes a point where too much inward-focus can lead to self-pity and then eventually to bitterness. Thinking about how an outward focus- one that looks at the needs and issues of others – might be a tool to help remove bitterness from your life.

Bitterness can also be directed at God. We struggle with what He has done, and what He has allowed into our lives. Where does the point come where we acknowledge that there is more to the picture than we see now?

Healing and restoration often begins when we acknowledge that there is a problem. That is not an easy thing to do. It can be very painful to look into our hearts and see what is really there. Being honest with oneself is not an easy thing. Think about what things prevent this type of honesty, and thus so often the necessary healing.

Tell us a bit about the situation you are facing, and what steps you have taken to deal with it…and what other steps you think you can take.